Only a few decades ago, a same-sex couple planning their wedding would be an almost inconceivable concept – one that many gay and lesbian people wouldn’t even dare to dream of. Hundreds of people in long-term relationship were unable to seal their love with the legal or religious bonds of marriage, bonds that would make their everyday lives much easier and their identities validated and recognized.
Since the decision of the US Supreme Court in 2015, however, same-sex marriage is legal in all 50 states, and LGBT people can finally celebrate their love in any way they’ve dreamt of. Homosexual and bisexual people are having breathtaking ceremonies, having their dream suits and dresses tailored and inviting their friends and family to their big day. This is a major win for the LGBT community in the US, and all the fights of the past need to be memorized.
To properly celebrate the best day of our lives, we cannot overlook the importance of engagement and wedding rings – symbols of continuity and eternity, binding us together with our better half. Our wedding rings are accessories that will accompany us everyday, probably for the rest of our lives, so we need to make this choice taking a lot of factors and variables into consideration.
This guide to choosing and wearing the perfect wedding ring, is meant to answer some of the questions LGBT people who are to be married may have, as well as give you some inspiration and ideas so that you know where to start looking for the ring on band that will make this memory last!
How to choose the perfect wedding ring
Is there a specific process you need to follow in order to find the right wedding ring? Does the right wedding ring exist? The short answer is no. The longer answer is: it depends on what you’re looking for.
Joking aside, it’s honestly a trick question. The only guidance you can have in finding the perfect ring, is your personal taste. There are no rules, no strict guidelines. Your wedding day is your day, and no one but you and your partner can decide what suits you best. So, do some research, make yourself familiar with different brands, materials and designs out there. The jewelry market provides a great variety of choices for all different styles, budgets and personalities. From traditional to unique, from affordable to luxurious and everything in between, LGBT people can finally choose whatever we want to keep the memory of their engagement and wedding day literally on our fingers for the rest of our lives.
Do the couples’ rings have to be matching?
Again, it’s only a matter of preference. Some same-sex couples choose to wear matching rings, in order to symbolize the power of their bond. Others choose to wear different rings that represent the unique personality of each partner. Of course, it is always possible to choose two rings with similar aesthetics and have them customized in a way that fits the style of each individual.
Which Finger Do Same Sex Couples Wear Their Wedding Rings?
There are several different opinions here, none of which is either wrong or correct. Depends on the message each couple wishes to communicate when it comes to their alliance and to their conception of marriage. You can wear your ring on the ring finger of the left hand if you feel it’s important to show that your bond is no different to traditionally viewed, heterosexual marriage, or you can wear it on your right hand in order to make the opposite statement and to avoid some invasive questions. You might also decide to rely on traditions related to your faith, if that’s important for you.
At the end of the day what matters is what you feel more comfortable with. This is your life, your marriage, your relationship, and no one can dictate the rules, habits and rituals better than you and your partner.
What If I want to Surprise My Partner?
Many couples choose their wedding rings together after they decide to get married, and that solves many issues and makes the process easier. But what if you’re looking for the perfect ring to propose to your partner, nice restaurant, flowers, falling on one knee and the like? The perfect choice exists for all romantic souls out there, and we’re certain your partner will forever remember that day. You can choose something dazzling that goes with the personality of your loved one, or you can even get something customized for you, engraved with your initials or embellished with the gemstone of your choice.
What you should definitely keep in mind is that it’s better to plan ahead than leave ring shopping for the last minute before the wedding. Doing some extensive research will help you get an idea of the choices you have and of other people’s experiences with searching for the right ring. Discuss it with your partner or prepare accordingly to surprise them. Know your budget, and know whether – and how much – you can afford to exceed it if you find The One. After all, it’s the only piece of garment or jewelry that you and your partner are going to wear every day for the rest of your lives, so you want it to rule out all possibilities that are any less-than-the-best. Consider your habits and professions: does it include manual work? How resistant do you need the metal to be?
With all of this in mind, we’ve brought together a collection of rings that celebrate every kind of couple. These rings might prove to be the perfect fit for you and the one you love. Then again, they might be a catalyst that sends you to the right fit. Whatever the result, every piece listed here would make the perfect complement for a couple in love.
For the playful and youthful type
You can always consider stepping out of the box: it’s what us LGBT people love doing the most anyway! Instead of going all traditional, some of us may choose to wear their Pride all day and year long, and remind ourselves what makes our love so special!
A unisex Titanium wedding band with the potential to engrave a personalized message, and a Rainbow Inlay, for proud wearers only
The glamorous choice
A sterling silver band ring with round cut rainbow sapphires make an elegant, colorful and glamorous choice. Definitely on the more affordable end of the spectrum, this unique ring speaks for Pride, love and style every day
14k White gold and diamonds
A breathtaking, romantic choice for Her. White gold vines, embellished with diamonds produce a classy yet discreet and elegant result. You can engrave any message you want on it!
Tungsten Carbide and Rainbow
This Rainbow Colored Tungsten Ring is a unique and inexpensive wedding band for men (or unisex) by NefesTreasures on Etsy, is a unique choice both when it comes to design and material. It is ideal if you are on a low budget, and combines subtlety and color. Tungsten carbide is a material that promises to last even if worn on an everyday basis. The holographic-looking rainbow stripe in the middle adds a touch of modernity and unique design. It might run a bit large, so better order half a size smaller than your normal size.
Antinous was a Greek youth famous for being the lover of the Roman emperor Hadrian. He was worshipped as a hero or as a God after his death, both by Greeks and by Romans. He also became a symbol of Hadrian’s dream of pan-Hellenism, that is, the growth of Greek culture, as well as a symbol of homosexuality and an allusion used by artists and writers like Oscar Wilde.
The Antinous Engagement ring in 14k gold and diamonds by Equalli meets up to the expectations set by the historic name. A majestic choice that can easily match other items of the same collection, elegant, subtle and very luxurious.
For the Femme of Your life
A quite affordable and adorable choice for feminine people who love simplicity, elegance, pastels and sparkles, who love people of any gender identity or expression, whether their rings match or not!
For the Royals
If you aren’t afraid to go big to show your partner what they mean to you, Queensland Ring by Equalli is probably the way to go. Sterling silver with round cut rainbow sapphires combined in a star-shaped ring, well-deserved by the one you hold closest to your heart.
Buying a wedding ring is an important decision, and one you’re making right now so take your time, plan correctly, and everything is going to be fine! Good luck searching the most valuable and meaningful gift you’ll ever give your partner and yourself!